How To Choose The Right Dress To Attend A Wedding

 A beautiful bride holding a bouquet by my favorite floral designer,  Revel Floral.

A beautiful bride holding a bouquet by my favorite floral designer, Revel Floral.

In Sonoma County, Summer time means wedding season. With that in mind, you want to look your best for the special occasion. Even if you aren't walking down the aisle, you may find your soulmate after catching the brides bouquet. Hey, anything is possible! Here are a few rules I have learned throughout the years of attending many weddings.

Rule #1: No white, cream, ivory or anything of that color scheme! Just because it's 90* in Napa, doesn't mean you can get away with wearing a white dress to a wedding. It's a basic rule and don't break it. Simple as pie. 

 Hey bride... oh wait that's the bride's old classmate. 

Hey bride... oh wait that's the bride's old classmate. 

Rule #2: Dress according to the theme of the wedding. If it has a theme, they will tell you in the invitation what to wear. For example, don't just assume since it's a Disney themed wedding that you gotta look like a Disney princess. The only Disney princess is the bride. When in doubt, just ask the wedding party or coordinator. 

 

  YES!  For a Disney wedding, this is actually very cute and appropriate! I found it at  Torrid .

YES! For a Disney wedding, this is actually very cute and appropriate! I found it at Torrid.

  NO! PLEASE NO!  Please save this for the 364 other days of the year. This one day is for the bride.

NO! PLEASE NO! Please save this for the 364 other days of the year. This one day is for the bride.

Rule #3: Respect the culture or religion of the wedding party. It is ok to wear something in homage to the culture per the bride (seriously, when in doubt always ask the wedding party), but don't come off as mocking the culture by going too far. Also, hemlines, necklines and sleeves play an important roll as well with this rule. For example, if you're attending a Catholic mass keep it conservative and respect the space you're in. You may also want to consider the fact that you will be expected to stand for a good portion of the ceremony as well as possibly kneeling. Wear conservative clothes and shoes comfortable to move and stand in. No club dresses. 

 Only cute for the clubs girls. 

Only cute for the clubs girls. 

Rule #4: Pick the right fabric and length according to the weather. I once attended a wedding with it being so windy that my a-line skirt, which was past my knees, kept trying to do a Marilyn Monroe moment. Not the best look when I had to hold the door for the guests. With technology at our finger tips these days, just simply check the weather in the location. For example, Bodega Bay is going to most likely be breezy, so wear a thicker fabric and bring a coat. 

 Wind + dress = only fun in the movies. 

Wind + dress = only fun in the movies. 

Rule #5: Don’t wear all black. While you don’t want to look like the bride, you also don’t want to look like you are attending a funeral. Try to keep it simple and cheerful, but not too showy. That brings us to the next rule.

 If it's a goth wedding, yes. Any other theme, no. 

If it's a goth wedding, yes. Any other theme, no. 

Rule #6: Tone it down girl. I'm literally laughing out loud! I have a problem with this one, but I have to remind myself to tone it down every time. You want to look on point, but you should not outshine the bride. This is her day and you don’t want to take attention away from her by drawing attention to yourself with your outfit girl. Avoid too much bling or frosting (I'm currently watching How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, while typing this). Clothes that have too much glitz and glamour can outshine the couple. This is not the Met Gala and you're not competing with Beyonce and Jay-Z. This includes sequined dresses or lots of lace. You can have a little glitz in your accessories, like a bold necklace, but avoid it in your dress. While you may be able to afford a more expensive dress than the bride-to-be, you don’t want to flaunt it on her wedding day. 

 A dress from my  Fall Winter 2017  Collection. It's fun, comfortable and not too bold like a red dress.

A dress from my Fall Winter 2017 Collection. It's fun, comfortable and not too bold like a red dress.

 Lady in red always gets attention, but too bright for a wedding!

Lady in red always gets attention, but too bright for a wedding!

Rule #7: Make sure it fits! As a tailor, I can't help but cringe when I see a dress too tight or too loose on a beautiful woman. It's another one of those rules where you're respecting the wedding. You don't need to go on some crash diet to fit in a certain dress. Just get a dress that is appropriate for the occasion and that you feel comfortable in. Remember, different brands are going to fit you in different sizes. For example, I'm a size 6 in Betsey Johnson, size 12 in Armani and a size 10 in Akris Punto. Don't beat yourself up about it. The right tailor can do magical things and give your dress the finishing touch it needs. Give yourself and your local tailor enough time to complete alterations. Typically, it is about 4-6 weeks turnaround time.

 If it doesn't zip, get a size up! It's ok to get a different size! This looks really bad. Makes me cringe. 

If it doesn't zip, get a size up! It's ok to get a different size! This looks really bad. Makes me cringe. 

 

Feel free to comment below and share. We can prevent these fashion faux pas from happening one lady at a time. 

NM